Just about everything in this world is easier said than done, with the exception of "systematically assisting Sisyphus's, cyst-susceptible sister," which is easier done than said. - Lemony Snicket
Ugh. Ugh. UGHHHHH.
I was right. The pop up woman and her family are back for good.
The T and i had a lovely afternoon together today. We flea bombed his house. Then we locked it up, left the fleas to die on their own and headed to Western Springs Park for lunch and a big walk with Nixon. We then headed to his kid's school to collect them.
There was no sign of pop up woman - or her kids. We had a great time taking a tour of his children's new classrooms and meeting their teachers. We sat and chatted with another parent - who i am sure was on p - but that is a whole other blog post all together! Then we wandered back to the car and home to the T's place.
I then raced home to pick up my girls and take them shopping for a few things they needed prior to school starting.
As soon as my phone rang and i saw the T's name flashing on it - i knew something was up. He had promised to tell me if he had heard anything and never phones my cell phone.
Sure enough - his girls told him that the whole family is back. The pop up woman's kids are in different classes but they are back. T thought it was strange that we did not see any of them there today - but they are definitely back.
Great.
That means that every single day T is going to have to see a woman that he only relates to his drug and alcohol abuse - a woman that used to laugh and tell him she knew that she was a bad influence on him and the cause of him relapsing. Not to mention the fact that she guilt tripped him and told him how jealous she was when he advised her that he had met someone. His response to that went something like - "HELLO - you are MARRIED".
I know that he wants nothing to do with her. He is being completely honest with me, despite his fear that this will set me back into distrusting and insecure "Michaela mode". I love him to bits for that. He has assured me over and over that even if we were not together and were not so solid - that he would not want her back in his life - that he doesn't even like her.
I am not going to let this bother me anymore. This is nothing more than a relationship test for us. A relationship is nothing if it doesn't have trust - so i have to just be secure in the fact that he loves me, will never be tempted by drugs or alcohol again - or anyone that indulges in that crap - and that we are solid.
No matter what.
That is easier said than done. I so want to Facebook message that banana boobed, cheating, druggie, pop up and ask her what her husband thinks of her chasing the T five minutes after she arrived back in the country!
But. I. Won't.
I will just blog it instead.
Sheesh - i thought i was safe from this kind of stuff when i chose to fall in love with a broke, skinny, nerd.
What are some women like?!?!
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CRAZY. so even though shes married, but she thinks she has the right to get jelous when the T finds someone better?
Stinko, whats her name, I'll Facebook her... yea arrr hmmm are you allowed to provide that info over your blog? This blogging is all new to me of late (as in having a say and posting comments etc), it's called having two young kids & not enough time to scratch my ass let alone jump on the computer LOL!
Anon - yep. She is married with 4 kids and got jealous when T told her that he had met someone.
That is just controlling behaviour. Dan the Policeman used to do that to me. If i so much as mentioned meeting someone he would go nuts with jealousy - despite the fact that he had lived with the same woman for the past 12 years. That is just typical behaviour from someone that is unfaithful.
I wonder if her husband knows his marriage is over?
I also wonder if her husband knows about her P use. I don't wonder if he knows that she spends her afternoons drunk driving with her kids in the car - until she passes out though. He can't be that blind to not notice when she falls over.
Sherril - i better not name her. As much as i would love to - i don't want to lose my moral highground! haha! Her life is chaotic enough without a bunch of messages reminding her of that.
Enjoy your your days with little ones and not having time to wipe the bum!
They go fast and before you know it you are having a different kind of sleepless night while you pray that your 17 year old gets home safe and sound!
I want my - no time to wipe bum unless it is someone else's - days back!
Jackie, be cool ... like Fonzie. Resist any urge to throw the first stone, trust, and be secure. My experience of this sort of thing is that the more you worry about it, the more likely it is that something will happen. If T knows he's got you 100% unconditional, rather than 80% + 20% doubt, then all will be good. Resist those urges, it's just mind control, you've beaten tougher shit than this before.
Sounds like L pop up is suffering enough :)
Yep. You are right Mike and you sound just like T.
He saw her this morning. She had obviously received his email advising her that he wished her well but preferred to have no contact. They passed each other outside the sick bay and she said something referring to that email and him not wanting contact. He replied with something like - that would be for the best - and kept walking.
The end. Pretty much.
I would be lying if i didn't say i felt much better when he told me that she looks so different that he didn't recognise her at first - and not in a good way. When i told him that made me feel better he laughed and said that it wouldn't matter if Kirsten Dunst was on offer - he loves ME.
He said that it is just the same as if someone put a fancy cocktail in front of him - he wouldn't be tempted to drink - and the same goes for other women.
I feel like the luckiest woman on earth. Not only have i gotten through way worse than this - T and i together and our relationship has survived worse than this.
Not going to let this bother me anymore. It just a test - and we will pass it - with merit!
You forced me to google (oogle?)Kirsten Dunst and I can hand-on-heart say that Mr T is most definitely prone to telling fibs! But wow, what a line, I'm keeping that one in my back pocket for a special occasion.
Heh.
Luckily the chances of Kirsten Dunst throwing herself at my T are about as high as Rob Thomas finally realising that i am the girl for him!
I concur though - the T can be pretty smooth when he wants to be.
;)
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